Dear Guys’ Night,
I feel awkward writing you, this is my first time seeking help in what I think is an otherwise perfect marriage. My wife and I have been married 22 beautiful years, we have 5 awesome kids, work is great, church is great. Promise Keeper? You betcha. You’re looking at a six-year Promise Keeper veteran. Here’s my issue. Recently I shared with my wife that I ‘experimented’ with some other boys while I was in high school. NOTHING GAY, just some mutual jack sessions, some role-playing blowjobs (we made sure to pretend to be girls!) the usual healthy teen boy stuff. My wife freaked out. She wants me to see our pastor for some counseling, but I told her this is completely normal. What do you think, GN?
(attached is a photo of me and promise keepers founder Bill McCartney)
Your wife wants you to see some priest for counseling on what she thinks is “gay”?! That’s just gonna be confusing. Priests are promise keepers too. To God. And if anyone can understand how a man who doesn’t have sex with women needs some release by having a mutual jack sesh or a few role playing beejers, it’s men of the cloth. Ask any doctor and he’ll tell you that it’s not healthy to hold in your business too long. And if you can’t turn to your buddies for help, then they’re not very good pals.
Guys in high school have enough pressure to be “cool” and before you learn how to hook up with a slammin’ chick, you don’t wanna water down your rep and chase after the hoaglys. It’s better to just kick it with the fellas and get some practice in so when you finally score that tasty senior, you’ll be able to get the j.o.b. d.o.n.e. If your wife didn’t have any brothers in high school, she’d never understand. And if she did have some and they didn’t ever have a few buddies over to shoot the shit and tug one down, then they must have been fucking nerds. I’m sure you’ve told your kids the same thing ‘cuz you sound like a stand up guy.
I remember when I was 15, my buddies Karl and Vern and me used to play Sega Genesis hockey and loser had to help the winner out with a few spit soaked strokes. It was just a little healthy competition to help us do the right and healthy thing for our bodies.
The next time she brings it up, call her a lesbo and ask her how it feels to be judged. Because she sounds like she might be a lesbo. Otherwise she wouldn’t be complaining. 6-year promise keeper? Maaaaaan, you must be layin’ down some sweet pipe on the mad regular!
Thanks for writing,